The Ji Spot- Avoiding the T.I.s of the World

But first, a word from Da CogNegro,

I've never watched the show so do I really count as an authority on the the matter? I would say that this is a great picture of the Kermit and Ms. Piggy (someone whispers in my ear) Oh, that's not them? Wow, um...and now Ji Ji!!- CgN

Jihan  "Ji Ji" Carmichael is a self proclaimed relationship non-expert. When she's not sharing her dating experiences and giving questionable advice on The CogNegro's Corner, you can catch her on Facebook HERE, on IG  under the name jihantakestheworld and once in a blue moon on Snapchat under"Jihantheworld"

Art of The Matter :Fuze Aquene Namid - deep like

                                                                                             
by Da CogNegro

Be it through his riveting performances, visual mediums,  published work, or simply the effervescence of his encouragement, the energy that shines forth from Fuze Aquene Namid is one of a guiding light.I first had the pleasure of experiencing Fuze some  seven years ago. Once he began his set, I immediately was entranced yet simultaneously blanketed with a calming sense of familiarity. It was as  if he was one of the inner voices that navigated my pen through the peaks and valleys of my existence and formatted my experiences to snugly fit between the rigid margins of life. After subsequent listens, I fully realized that he was indeed a transcendent entity. Fuze continues to be a revered staple in  multiple artistic communities and has headlined a bevy of events.Even with his well deserve acclaim, Fuze walks with a gravitated pace and possesses an inviting demeanor.I am so elated that I recently had the honor of introducing him, as our feature, at our last Spoken Souls event. We all  look forward to continually be lifted by his expression and craftsmanship. Peace  King! - CgN


Bio: Fuze Aquene Namid (fuse a/keen nah/meed) is a poet, creative writer, author, visual/graphic artist, and spiritualist.  For the past 16 years, his expression entity known as i*stimyouleye has provided creative writing, visual and audio concepts for book, music, film, commercial, and workshop purposes.  His latest work is book #13 of his i*Publish collection, entitled LOVE POEMS FOR AUSET.

In the words of a 6th grade student

who witnessed Fuze speak at her school:

"He's class without pretend... style without offense...

A field beneath the freeways

and New York with country ways...

He never talks of freedom

because he lives it everyday."

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deep like

The ocean gave you up

That I should have salt

And water

Only begotten daughter,

Your wet taste consumes me

Your liquid love hydrates

Oxygen relies on the 2 of us

Together we conduct electricity

We erode chaos

The *end* has never been

Further away

Such a ridiculous fright tactic!

This ocean proceeds calmly the space

My heart floats

Fantasizing—riding your waves

Through storm and wind

Always settling back into natural place

Unmoved with no trace of disturbance

The shore is not my guide

But reminder, an outlining myth

That your presence is divine

Not promised, yet never to be broken

Pants legs stand up

Ankles teased by a playful line

Hour glass sands of time move on—

Yet I am stuck, fixated

On your body and every woman song you chant

With a chorus of seabirds dancing and singing background

Will you, stay with me?

I want to bury myself in your ample abundance

Like the child I sometimes need to be

For you are always mother (goddess) to my nature

Your arms fling wide, welcoming

My drowning heart

I proceed forward into love.

—From LOVE POEMS FOR AUSET (2016)

Cornelia’s Nook: The Case for Compassion

by Cornelia Oancea

In Buddhism, there’s something called Loving-kindness/Lovingkindness (Metta) meditation. The basic practice of it is wishing positive things (health, happiness, safety, comfort, etc.) first to oneself, then outward to a loved one, a neutral person, and eventually to all beings. A super-simplified, pared down version might be:

May I/you be happy

May I/you be free

May I/you be safe

May I/you live a life of peace and ease

In some iterations, metta meditation also includes radiating these positive thoughts towards a person who is difficult for you to have kind thoughts about — someone with whom you struggle or have personal conflict, someone who does harm (sometimes on a large scale). The idea is that you wish everyone to be free from the painful states that can lead some to behave in negative or detrimental ways (to others, society, themselves, etc.), both for your own growth in the practice, and because of the underlying idea that people cause suffering because they suffer in some way (whether from mental illness, or not being loved, or clinging to damaging ways of thinking).

Many times, I choose a political leader or otherwise powerful/influential figure that I see as doing harm as the “difficult person” for whom I try to cultivate metta.

I’m not very skilled at this type of meditation. I have a hard enough time cultivating loving-kindness for myself some days. As you might expect, when I reach the difficult person, the struggle gets really real. My mind just wants to skip to the “all beings” part, wherein I can picture the people and animals and other living creatures who really deserve loving kindness, compassion, prayers, good things.

But lovingkindness and compassion are not predicated on deserving or earning. They’re things to just give freely. Because we all have within us the capacity to be both helpful and harmful, and are all inter-connected, living under the illusion that we aren’t. Here are a few lines from Buddhist monk, scholar and poet Thich Nhat Hanh’s “Call Me by My True Names”, which capture the essence of that:

“I am the child in Uganda, all skin and bones,

my legs as thin as bamboo sticks,

and I am the arms merchant, selling deadly weapons to Uganda."

And so, I’m trying to cultivate compassion for those who got conned into voting for this current administration, because they didn’t know better or were desperate, and are now suffering (or will soon suffer). The marginalized (or spouses/loved ones of the marginalized) who thought the rhetoric only applied to the “bad ones” among them. The staunchly pro-life women who may lose access to necessary health care. The swaths of America whose past industries aren’t going to see a resurgence. The third-party voters who had to make a statement. Oh, and the people who just checked out of the whole thing and didn’t vote.

It’d be easy to turn to schadenfreude for these people, to snicker at their self-perpetuated misfortunes. And there are many who are trying to engender that exact response, for their own gain (clicks, sales, whatever). It’s easy to say “well, I’m just going to reserve all my compassion for those who chose wisely and are going to get screwed, the ones who really need and deserve my compassion.”

Compassion is not a finite resource, though, the way time and money (and oil and polar ice and clean water) are. And it’s not a value judgment, not about who is more/less worthy. Or who has it “worse” (the point is, ideally, no one should have to have it “bad”). Having compassion for the out-of-work, black lung-suffering, coal miner doesn’t negate or diminish compassion for the person living in inner city poverty.

It’s also evident, in practical terms, that the suffering of large segments of our population is a detriment to our nation as a whole. It erodes our unity. It’s something opportunists latch onto for their own personal and political gain (“divide and conquer” is a well-worn strategy for good reason).

Just something I’ve been mulling over.

And while I think it’s beneficial to try cultivating widespread compassion, I recognize and stand by the idea that we can still be discerning as to where and how we direct our finite resources (especially time and money).

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Cornelia L. Dolian is a writer you can follow on Twitter and like on Facebook.